Monday Wisdom | Authenticity, Pain, & Magic

Each of us today is obligated to live our authenticity. And if we do–as our spirituality says, as Jung writes about–when we try to live our authenticity, doors will open where other people see walls. Miracles will take place. Resources will show up that we never imagined could come our way. There is magic and mystery in the cosmos but it all is dependent on us living the person that Spirit intends us to be. And when that has to be lived in the face of others’ criticism, it’s painful, I know. And we need to do it. And everything will be okay.

In fact, everything will be more than okay. It’ll be great.

From RobCast #137 with Alexander Shaia. Quote begins 50:25.

Friday Round-up: Groundhog Day Edition

This post will have nothing to do with groundhogs.

My mom sent me this video today with the message, I’m sure this is a message from my future granddaughter.

Oh, if I know anything about that future granddaughter: YES.

Recipe recommend:

I saw this chickpea curry on instagram this week and made it. But without any spiralized veggies and with the addition of lots of other ingredients, and so does it actually count? Whatever it was delicious. Thank you for the inspiration, Ali!

Also! I saw this black bean and sweet potato bowl recipe and did not make it, but totally will this week. Doesn’t that look so good? And simple! Perfect for a weeknight.

Instagram is the best place to find recipes, by the way. That’s where I get about 80% of the good stuff I make.

And church will def be happening on Sunday. I’m featuring two women writers, one whom you’ve definitely read before, and the other whom you probably haven’t(?). See you back here Sunday at 8 AM!

Happy weekending!

Everything You’ve Been Told About How Your Body Works? Is WRONG.

Read and understand operator's manual

Last week my friend posted this on Facebook. Is she talking about ME? I wondered.

Yes! It’s me! I’m the friend! And she’s right that it’s a fascinating read (you’re welcome) but.

I have some thoughts:
1. These tracking methods are only fascinating because we’ve never heard of fertility tracking before.
2. Wait, what do you mean we’ve never heard of it before? I think I know how my body works.
3. No. You don’t. And it’s CRAZY when you actually find out. How do we not know how our own bodies work?
4. Women. I’m talking about women, here, because we have some crazy complicatedmiraculous bodies that people still–in 2017!!–don’t really understand.
5. Mostly it’s because of the patriarchy and hundreds and thousands of years of our reproductive organs being associated with uncleanliness, impurity, and and sweet sweet danger.
6. I want to teach everyone about the fertility awareness method. I want every single woman on the planet to know about it. I want it to be so known, that “fertility awareness method” becomes obsolete because now it’s just “biology”.
Starting right here with this blog. Don’t let the “fertility” part throw you. If you’re a woman, you want in on this action.
Action items:
1. Order yourself a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility*. It’s awesome. And I know “fertility” is in the title, but think of it just as like the Woman Operation Manual because if you have female reproductive organs, this book is for you.
2. Get a period tracker. I use Kindara and have for years so I’m a fan, but, admittedly, I’ve never used anything else.
2a. But do other trackers come with thermometers? Because if you’re going to track, you want a wink. You really do. It’s the best.
3. Tell you friends! And your enemies! And your Twitter list! Just freaking let everyone know that everything you’ve been taught your whole life is wrong and that the world is backwards and upside down and you’ve found the way forward and rightsideup. Because seriously, that’s how it’s going to feel. That and some anger.
BONUS: I just found this podcast called Fertility Friday. It is really good because it covers all kinds of topics related to women’s health and reproduction and fertility and PCOS. I mean, just look at the episode list.
*Amazon is the cheapest and quickest way to get your copy, but I’m giving you the option of supporting an independent bookseller, which I’m working to do more of.

Hump day! Podcast Recommendation

But I think a calling in this – kind of as we move into this part of the 21st century for some of us is to be calmers of fear, to help create spaces where some of that raw pain and fear can actually show itself instead of acting like anger and instead of being attracted to voices and energies that can turn it toxic, that can make it dangerous.

I started listening to Krista Tippett’s new podcast (!) Becoming Wise yesterday. I highly recommend it. It’s deep, but quick. A great little bite to start your day with. Here’s a little interview about her book of the same name, which will give you a good taste of the podcast.

Art | Desperate to be done.

I took this screenshot to send to my husband–who adores Adele, but opposes the very existence of pop music. Adele praising Beyonce's Lemonade on Instagram

Amen, Adele.


The other day, facebook brought me this memory:

To whomever finds this note

Days before graduation, it really does feel that desperate.

ETA 1/5/17: Also, college Anna was so funny.

Monday Wisdom: One day you are going to find yourself again.

First, a poem:

Everyone who terrifies you is sixty-five percent water.
And everyone you love is made of stardust, and I know sometimes
you cannot even breathe deeply, and
the night sky is no home, and
you have cried yourself to sleep enough times
that you are down to your last two percent, but

nothing is infinite,
not even loss.

You are made of the sea and the stars, and one day
you are going to find yourself again.

Finn Butler
Here’s the link to the poem. It’s from three years ago, and when I went to investigate, I found that she’s published her first collection of poetry and it’s available here! Congrats, Finn!

This Monday, start your week with some wisdom, introspection, and inspiration. I go back to this talk over and over again because it is so good.

It looks like I was a talk show host. It looks like I’m in the movies. It looks like I have a network. But my real contribution, the real reason why I’m here is to connect people to themselves and the higher ideas of consciousness. I’m here to raise consciousness.

What are you here for?

Hell, what am I here for?

myriad petty little unsexy ways | Church with David Foster Wallace

Everything in my own immediate experience supports my deep belief that I am the absolute center of the universe, the realest, most vivid and important person in existence. We rarely talk about this sort of natural, basic self centeredness, because it’s so socially repulsive, but it’s pretty much the same for all of us, deep down. It is our default-setting, hard-wired into our boards at birth.

Think about it: There is no experience you’ve had that you were not at the absolute center of. The world as you experience it is right there in front of you, or behind you, to the left or right of you, on your TV, or your monitor, or whatever. Other people’s thoughts and feelings have to be communicated to you somehow, but your own are so immediate, urgent, real-you get the idea.

This is not a matter of virtue-it’s a matter of my choosing to do the work of somehow altering or getting free of my natural, hard-wired default-setting, which is to be deeply and literally self-centered, and to see and interpret everything through this lens of self.

But of course there are all different kinds of freedom, and the kind that is most precious you will not hear much talked about in the great outside world of winning and achieving and displaying. The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day. That is real freedom.

The alternative is unconsciousness, the default-setting, the “rat race”-the constant gnawing sense of having had and lost some infinite thing.

David Foster Wallace
excerpt from This Is Water

Monday Wisdom: Creativity, Discipline, and John Green

I read an AMA by John Green several months back and it planted a seed of change in how I thought about creativity, and writing in particular.

The redditor asked about what John Green has learned since 2007, when the Green brothers made their debut as the Vlogbrothers. If you don’t know about the project or Vlogbrothers, just keep reading. It’s not essential to his point.

I think the biggest lesson I took away from B[rotherhood]2.0 was about discipline. Just making something for people every other day for a year stretched me a lot and showed me that I had more creative bandwidth than I initially believed.

I’d always imagined discipline and deadlines as the enemies of creativity, but for me at least they made me more creatively productive. That changed the way I approach my work.

This wasn’t shocking news, or even news at all. Write everyday. Writers say that all the time! And many of them do it! And I’ve known this for years!

But somehow this quote was a revelation, probably because I’ve been following the project for a few years now and somehow seeing the product as it’s made (kind of) instead of just once it’s done (like a book) drove the point home in a way nothing else has.

Lots of my favorite people, it turns out, are disciplined about their creativity. The Vlogbrothers, of course, but also Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell, Chris Guillebeau, and does Momastery still keep a daily writing date? There are tons more, I’m certain.

So I’m being more intentional, and uncharacteristically disciplined about my writing. I’ve never been one for routines (ugh) but I am finding myself liberated by them.

It’s rather strange.

Friday Round-up

Here’s a cool quote I heard this week:

The reason that Fear and Creativity are so innately linked is that Creativity will always ask you to enter into a situation where the outcome is unknown. That’s what Creativity does. And Fear hates that. 

-Elizabeth Gilbert on the podcast No Filter with Mia Freedman (#16 on the list).


I’m really liking Sampler. This week’s was scary stories and of course I was disappointed. Scary stories never reach satisfying conclusions. With the exception of Pet Cemetery. Maybe I just need to read more horror stories. Or maybe I don’t.

There are not enough good Friday podcasts. I listen to Dear Sugar, usually on Saturdays–what am I missing?


Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt Season 2 tomorrow. So excited for more music, and to see that cow shirt.

This routine is so beautiful I cried. (Word note: I always think of routines as boring. I looked up its etymology and it’s from the word for “route” (which, duh, why didn’t I see that?) and now it doesn’t seem boring but very apt. The routine you establish is your route to success.)



Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow. But actually I’m listening to it. 4 hours in. 33 hours to go.

Torch by Cheryl Strayed. Barely started this one. Thinking I should have just picked up the book. Oh–because I’m listening to it.

Tonight bought Born For This by Chris Guillebeau and Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, which has been on my list for nearly a year. Would be reading it now if I weren’t writing. (I’m linking to author pages to make placing an Amazon order less convenient. Buy independent!)

The Hamiltome. (Which was bought through Amazon.)


The hus gets backs tonight and I can’t wait. I make terrible choices when he’s gone.

Pondering 2 Kings 4, the miracle with the Widow’s oil. To me it’s the story of sorrow and fear, and letting your friends carry you through it. And economic independence and self-reliance and awe an wonder. It’s a good one.

Monday Wisdom

This morning a friend was telling me that her friend had lost 60 kilos.

He’s been talking about losing weight for years, but he’d rather take shortcuts. You know those pills that make it so your mouth burns when you eat?


Anyway, he finally just started eating less crappy and doing some exercises and he’s lost 60 kilos.

So much of a good life is just doing shitty things we hate.

This year I resolved to do the things that bring long-term happiness, and a few days later Gretchen Rubin said this, “Don’t do something to make yourself feel better that in the long run is going to make yourself feel worse.” And that’s what I’m trying to live by.

Because it’s never the fire pills that work.

It’s always the broccoli.